Mother Upset With Commuters Who Didn’t Offer Her A Seat While She Breastfed Her Baby.

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Bryony Esther found herself standing up in a train ride in Essex, a county northeast of London, England.

There is something to be said about being courteous. We are all tired after a long day at work, but some people deserve more of a break than others. Which is why it is surprising when folks are so self-absorbed that they don't notice a woman with an infant, a senior, or someone with a disability. Rather than offer a seat or moving out of the way, some individuals act like wherever they are is their domain.This while holding and nursing her 15-month-old child. She managed to take a selfie and other passengers on the same commute. The photo revealed men taking up most of the seating area.
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This included the disabled seating being taken as well.

Esther posted on Facebook her frustration and disappointment. The mother of three posted that no one offered to give her a seat for her and her child.
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The 32-year-old also called out the cyclist who took the disabled seating.

He also paid no attention to his bike rolling on Esther while she nursed. She asked others to share her post in the hopes that the women in these men's lives will recognize them.

And share they did. Within 24 hours, her post was shared over 20,000 times.

Many folks online shared their outrage along with Esther. Many thought chivalry and just good manners are a thing of the past.
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Nonetheless, others have questioned her parenting style claiming her child looks too old to nurse.

Some men had the audacity to argue that if women want equal rights, than they shouldn't complain when men don't give up their seats.

A spokesperson for the C2C train operator said "We welcome breastfeeding on all C2C trains and would hope our customers would be considerate to their fellow travelers and give up their seat when requested."

"Unfortunately this does not appear to have happened on this occasion, and we are sorry for any inconvenience this caused," it concluded. Esther was traveling with her 15-month-old and five-year-old to Great Ormond Street Hospital to visit her two-year-old who was recovering from surgery.
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Countries around the world are trying to address priority seating.

Bangladesh has The Road Transport Act that says any male passenger sitting on a seat reserved for women, disabled, or children can be fined or jailed for a month.

When women in Hong Kong are given a seat, they are held to having manners as well.

In 2014, a story went viral in Hong Kong after a woman ceded her seat to a pregnant woman. The mom-to-be did not say thank you which prompted the person to tell her she had dropped her phone. The expectant mom stood up to pick it up and the passenger took the seat back and teaching the woman a lesson in etiquette.

Antonia Hoyle found being pregnant did not mean other women were kind nor helpful.

Hoyle wrote on the Daily Mail that assuming women who have been pregnant would understand the discomfort of carrying a child but they seems to be the, "least helpful." In fact, Hoyle said women were the worst culprits.
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Hoyle says men are setting the example as they "leap out of their seats as soon as a woman who looks like she’s had so much as a second helping of pudding gets on, because they’re so concerned about being perceived as neanderthals."

She says her husband goes the extra mile by simply refusing to sit while on public transportation. Hoyle says mothers are forced to pay extra and hail a taxi in order to avoid public transportation.

Japan as a society is known for being courteous and respectful.

Riding public transportation is no exception. Elderly people don't have to ask for a space to sit on, people automatically give up their seats without a second thought.

To them having manners go hand in hand with social skills.

Many tourists or people who move to this gorgeous country find this surprising and in many cases inspiring.

On the Japan Info website, it is noted that manners go both ways.

Even when you are offering your spot the other person may not want to take it. They don't want to inconvenience others or draw negative attention to themselves. What folks do to give up their seats often times, they act like they are about to get off on their stop, even if they have a long way to go still.

Hilary Freeman from the UK says getting someone to give up their seat is nearly impossible.

At 30-weeks pregnant, Freeman says she has an, "enormous" bump. She points out that standing while pregnant makes it that much more difficult since sudden movements, or fast driving can make her lose her balance easily.

She echoes what Hoyle complained about as well; women are not empathetic towards those expecting.

Freeman takes a pic with commuter Jim, who was more than happy to give up his seat for her.

Freeman says that those who gave up their seats for her were men "aged 25 to 40, and he’s often a foreigner."

"To my surprise, not once has a woman given me her seat," she revealed. "So much for the sisterhood!"

Yvonne Lin from New York City is eight months pregnant. She found it was only women giving up their seats for her.

The designer decided to order a custom trophy from Amazon for $12.99. She carried the seven-inch statue in her bag waiting to be awarded to the first man who offered his seat. The Incredible Hulk bronzed statue had the inscription "“#1 Decent Dude. First Man to Offer Subway Seat to Pregnant Woman throughout Two Pregnancies." She posted a photo of the winner with his trophy on social media.
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